Domestic Violence Safety Plan
Having a safety plan could be life saving. The resources here can help you make a safety plan that works best for you.
For life threatening emergencies call 911
Statewide Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 500-1119
Safety During An Explosive Incident
- If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has an exit.
Also avoid the bathroom, kitchen or a place near weapons.
- Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows,elevator or
stairwell would be best.
- Pack a bag and keep it hidden but accessible to leave quickly.
- Identify a neighbor you can tell about the violence and ask they they call the police if
they hear a disturbance.
- Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you
need the police.
- Plan where you will go even if you don’t think you will need to.
- Use your instincts and judgement. If the situation is dangerous, consider giving the abuser
what they want to calm them down. You have the right to protect yourself.
- Always remember – You do not deserve to be hurt or threatened.
Safety When Preparing To Leave
- Call the Domestic Violence Center and make a safety plan.
- Determine who you might be able to stay with or whom might lend you money.
- Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important papers and extra clothes with
someone you trust so you can leave quickly.
- Keep a cell phone ( the DV Center can give you a 911 cell phone ) or phone card handy
with the DV center number for emergencies.
- Review your safety plan often. Remember – Leaving is the most dangerous time.
What You Need To Take When You Leave:
- Identification ( Driver’s License, Passport, Green Card, Social Security Card
Birth Certificates or Work Permit ).
- Money/Checkbook/Debit or Credit Cards.
- House Deed, Lease or Rental Agreement.
- Home/Medical Insurance Papers.
- Cell Phone & Charger.
- Address Book.
- Medical & School Records.
- Divorce Papers.
- Personal Items ( Jewelry, Change of Clothing, Toiletries ).
- Toy or Pillow for Child’s Comfort.
Safety In Your Own Home
- Discuss a safety plan with your children.
- Tell your neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you
and they should call the police if they see him near your home.
- inform your child’s daycare or school etc. about who has permission
to pick up your children.
- Change locks, codes, etc. and buy additional safety devices.
Safety with a protective order
( Injunction For Protection Order or IFP )
- Keep your protective order/IFP with you at all times. When you change
bags, the IFP should be the first thing in.
- Call the police if the batterer violates the order.
- Have a safety plan for the time until police arrive.
- Tell family, friends and neighbors that you have a protective order/IFP in effect.
Safety At Work And In Public
- Decide who at work you will tell about your situation. Inform all security persons
about the protective order/IFP and provide a picture of the batterer.
- Have someone screen your calls. Save harassing voice mails.
- Have a safety plan for leaving work. Leave with others. Vary your route home.
Keep your cell phone handy and charged.
Your Safety And Emotional Health
- If you are thinking of returning to an abusive situation, discuss it with
someone you trust or call a DV Center Hotline.
- If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safest way
to do so.
- Let others help you. Recognize your strengths.
- Read and get information to help yourself feel strong. Go to a
DV support group for at least 2 weeks.
- Talk to someone you trust.
If You Are A Teen In A Violent Dating Relationship
- Decide which friend, teacher, relative or police officer you can tell.
- Contact an advocate at court to decide how to obtain a Protective Order/IFP
and make a safety plan.