Domestic Violence

Having a safety plan could be life saving. The resources here can help you make a safety plan that works best for you.

If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has an exit.
Also avoid the bathroom, kitchen or a place near weapons.
Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows,elevator or
stairwell would be best.
Pack a bag and keep it hidden but accessible to leave quickly.
Identify a neighbor you can tell about the violence and ask they they call the police if
they hear a disturbance.
Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you
need the police.
Plan where you will go even if you don’t think you will need to.
Use your instincts and judgement. If the situation is dangerous, consider giving the abuser
what they want to calm them down. You have the right to protect yourself.
Always remember – You do not deserve to be hurt or threatened.

Call the Domestic Violence Center and make a safety plan.
Determine who you might be able to stay with or whom might lend you money.
Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important papers and extra clothes with
someone you trust so you can leave quickly.
Keep a cell phone ( the DV Center can give you a 911 cell phone ) or phone card handy
with the DV center number for emergencies.
Review your safety plan often. Remember – Leaving is the most dangerous time.

Identification ( Driver’s License, Passport, Green Card, Social Security Card
Birth Certificates or Work Permit ).
Money/Checkbook/Debit or Credit Cards.
House Deed, Lease or Rental Agreement.
Home/Medical Insurance Papers.
Medications.
Cell Phone & Charger.
Address Book.
Medical & School Records.
Divorce Papers.
Personal Items ( Jewelry, Change of Clothing, Toiletries ).
Toy or Pillow for Child’s Comfort.
Other_____________________________________________________

Discuss a safety plan with your children.
Tell your neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you
and they should call the police if they see him near your home.
inform your child’s daycare or school etc. about who has permission
to pick up your children.
Change locks, codes, etc. and buy additional safety devices.

Keep your protective order/IFP with you at all times. When you change
bags, the IFP should be the first thing in.
Call the police if the batterer violates the order.
Have a safety plan for the time until police arrive.
Tell family, friends and neighbors that you have a protective order/IFP in effect.

Decide who at work you will tell about your situation. Inform all security persons
about the protective order/IFP and provide a picture of the batterer.
Have someone screen your calls. Save harassing voice mails.
Have a safety plan for leaving work. Leave with others. Vary your route home.
Keep your cell phone handy and charged.

If you are thinking of returning to an abusive situation, discuss it with
someone you trust or call a DV Center Hotline.
If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safest way
to do so.
Let others help you. Recognize your strengths.
Read and get information to help yourself feel strong. Go to a
DV support group for at least 2 weeks.
Talk to someone you trust.

Decide which friend, teacher, relative or police officer you can tell.
Contact an advocate at court to decide how to obtain a Protective Order/IFP
and make a safety plan.